TooBusy
I get that. I was the same with my husband. Nothing was specifically wrong, but it wasn’t right either.
DirtyLife
Yes! That’s it exactly. It’s hard to walk away from something that’s not wrong.
TooBusy
Because sometimes it’s better to not be alone.
DirtyLife
Yeah.
TooBusy
Yeah.
DirtyLife
But what I’ve realized since that relationship ended is that it’s also exhausting to try to hold something together that isn’t meant to be. We didn’t want the same things. And trying to make it happen would have meant us hating each other.
TooBusy
That’s not fair to anyone. I feel the same mostly. Although I’m angry that I’m the one acting like the responsible adult and my ex gets to live without responsibility.
DirtyLife
That sucks.
TooBusy
It does. But I have custody, and I love having time with my kid, so I really can’t complain. He doesn’t make time for her, and even though I hate it for her, I also know if she did see him much, it wouldn’t be better. He was never a great father.
DirtyLife
Sounds like she’s lucky to have you.
TooBusy
I think I’m the lucky one.
“Mom, can you help me with my math homework?” Mikayla asked, dragging her backpack to the table and sitting next to me.
As she pulled her folder out and searched for a pencil, I read DirtyLife’s last message.
DirtyLife
How anyone could walk away from that amazes me. It’s all I’ve ever wanted. But my ex wasn’t looking for a family. She didn’t want kids.
TooBusy
Not everyone is meant to be a parent. My daughter wasn’t planned, but she’s the best thing that’s ever happened to me. And she needs my help with homework, so I need to go.
DirtyLife
Talk soon. Enjoy your evening.